Kiss and Tell

I'd like to wish everyone happy holidays! Whether you celebrate or not I hope everyone reading this is well, and not only during this season, but year round.

Christmas in particular brings to mind many things, like gifts, trees and mistletoe. And since mistleote means kissing, I'll latch on to that. Kissing is something that I love to do. I've never really thoguht about why I like it so much. It may be a combination of my sensual nature - I'm one who loves things that feel and smell good. Well pretty much anything that stimulates my senses is a hit in my book, but especially, things having to do with touch and taste.

Which brings me to the second part of the combination. I sometimes think I have a bit of an oral fixation. I like to have something in my mouth or be doing something with my mouth, much of the time. And I'm not much of a talker. So maybe it was a natural thing for me to so thoroughly enjoy kissing.

I adore kissing Victor. When he and I kiss things tend to get very steamy. We'll start off slow, with small busses and soon our tongues are involved. The heat and slickness, the sharing of breaths makes for a very intimate exercise. The mating of mouths is a delectable pasttime, one I like to indulge in as often as possible. Especially with a partner like Vic.

Kissing has given me a couple of surprises. One thing I found out is that since it's a very intimate activity, it's not something you want to do with just anyone. I've had sex a couple of times and not kissed the person I was with. A couple of people I know don't even like kissing, and that kind of boggles my mind. What's not to like about it? But I know I don't like it with just anyone.

Another revelation kissing's given me is that I enjoy kissing women. Well maybe I should qualify that statement and say that I like kissing Alyssa. I relish kissing her almost as much as Vic. I delight in locking lips with them both, but they're very different. I don't know if its because she's a woman or just because she's a different person. I just know I have good time when our mouths meet.

I'm not sure I'd be open to kissing another woman. I won't, however, veto the idea because I never once thought I'd kiss someone of the same sex, let alone like it. So, who knows? If the opportunity and inclination arise within our trysts, it's possible. I'm learning almost anything's possible when you combine imagination, sex and willing people. And I am loving the possibilities!

TMI Tuesday - First Week of December

Getting to know a little more about me...

1. Do you consider sexy underthings a present for you or your partner?
It's a gift for both of us. Wearing it would make me feel even sexier when I'm with him which serves a purpose for me and if he gets a kick out of seeing me in it well, there you go. A win-win in my book.

2. What are 3 characteristics of "your type"? Have you best relationship(s) been been with your type or when you have gone against it?
I don't have much of a type. I've been with all sorts of guys. I like guys who can make me laugh and for the most part I have kept to that. If I had to pinpoint a "type" it would be someone who could be my friend as well as a lover. Loyal, trustworthy, someone who's concerned with all aspects of my well being, and knows how to have fun. Someone who's willing and looking to share new things with me, both inside and outside of the bedroom. And someone who is comfortable with himself.

I'd have to say my best relationships have been with guys who may exhibit 1 or 2 of the things I like in a man. None of them has ever had it all. I'm still holding out for him.

3. What is on your Santa list this year?
Actually, the first thing that popped into my head was a threesome, with 2 guys. I guess that's been on my mind a lot lately. Who knows, maybe it'll happen soon. I'd also like a particular beauty and skin care gift set. Money's always on the list. I'd like a new cell phone and realistic dildo. Oh, and more sex! I think that's about it. (I'd like to see what's on some of your Santa lists. Leave some comments letting me know.)

4. Generally speaking, who has historically had a higher libido, you or your partner(s)?
So far, it's been my partners with the higher libido. Sex is fun and can be really, really intense, but when I don't get any I'm not climbing the walls. Plus I'm not used to having sex on a regular basis. I think if I did have sex more often my appetite would grow.

5. The unsculptured female bush seems to have passed from fashion. What about men, do you think they need to trim and shave "down there"?
Absolutely! I've given oral sex to trimmed and untrimmed guys and I have to say licking and sucking hairless balls is a lot better.

Bonus (as in optional):What are a few of your favorite things (both sexual non-sexual)?
Books! I love reading. I think I should get paid to read, really.
Pictures - be they of friends, family, nature. I love pictures and being able to look at them to reminisce and rekindle memories.
Kisses have to go on the list. I love kissing- long and slow, short and sweet, I love them all.
The computer - because along with email etc., I can use it to read, look at pictures and to read and write about kissing on it. It's like all my favorites combined.

The List - Hot Sex Scenarios

In all the talking Vic and I do, we rehash the things we've done. We also talk about things we haven't gotten around to and fantasize about scenarios we might like. So we've compiled a list. And thought we'd share it with you. There's no particular order.

* blindfolding
* being tied up, with or without blindfold
* being tied up and punished with the hand whip
* dripping wax on various body parts (Vic's idea)
* a threesome with 2 guys (my idea)
* foursome -Alyssa, Vic, his friend, and me
* having my clit licked while having sex
* licking Vic's cock after he pulls out of Alyssa (his idea)
* Alyssa licks Daria's breasts after Vic's cummed on them (Vic's idea, but I like it too)
* girls cum swap and kiss (obviously, Vic)
* licking whipped cream off each other
* girls kiss each other while one rides Vic and the other sits on his face (both of us)
* girls eating each other out and/or 69ing (do you need to guess whose that is?)


I'll let you know if and when we check these activities off the list. Are there any you think we should add?

Did Our Friendship Recover After Make-up Sex?

I'd had sex for the first time a year ago and I had just had my first make up sex. (Why were we making up? See Tiffs, Tangles and Tingles) Almost made me want to argue with Victor again.

But seriously, it was a very nice pre- birthday gift. Definitely had a smile on my face as I went home that night, one that lasted through most of the next day. I relived that day, held it in the forefront of my mind as Victor and I once again resumed our erotic exchanges via internet. Conversation with him is something I look forward to almost daily. If I went more than a few days without talking with him, it just felt weird and wrong. More than my bed buddy, Victor was first and foremost my friend. Always ready with ideas and advice for me, concerned about my welfare in all aspects of my life.

Because of this, as well as the adventures we had in the bedroom, it bothered me that we didn't see each other more often. While we talked and emailed non-stop, due to work and family obligations, it was another couple of months before we saw each other again.

My Friend and Secret Lover

Sorry to disappoint but this will be a short post, just to let you know... someone will be joining me in the blog! Victor will be adding his pov, when he can. He can get very busy, what with running a business and pleasing two women. I thought it a good idea to let you "hear" from him. I'm sure you'll enjoy reading his side of the story...

Feelings, Nothing More Than Feelings

I started this blog as a way to chronicle the new and unprecedented experiences I was having with my friend of many years, and (sometimes) his girlfriend. As they continue to happen, I'll continue to write. And hopefully, you'll continue to read.

Just recently someone asked 'what if my feelings got too involved'. Was I risking getting in too deep and possibly getting hurt? There were also the feelings of Victor and Alyssa to take into account. Although I have spoken with Victor about this, I can really only speak for myself. I cherish what I share with Victor. My relationship with him is unlike any of the others in my life. He's actually one of my best friends, in that I feel I can share almost anything with him and I treasure him as a friend. Then there's the intimate side of it. And it is a very intimate thing to share your body with another. I've always felt comfortable with him and respected by him. I love having him as a lover.

But that's really where the buck stops. As much as we share, we'd never be right for each other as more than friends. Our views on the most important issues are polar opposite. And while I'm attracted to him, I've never thought of him as potential significant other material, not for myself. Victor's a great guy, a really great guy, and he's met his match in Alyssa. Not only do they adore each other but they fit each other, they're just right together. I mean they'd have to be, to be willing to share each other with other people. They have a special type of trust that enables this and sustains their relationship. And as we got to know each other better, I was becoming fond of Alyssa as well. The only thing I sometimes worry about is any or all of us becoming a little too attached to the situation. I know our 3some play is not a forever thing, but I see them as always having a place in my life. I hope this explains things well enough.

Candid Convos and Cunnilingus

I was glad for a number of reasons. I was happy I’d stayed friends with Victor all these years. Not only was he a good person to talk to but he was introducing me to all these new and exciting things as well as helping me learn more about myself. And I felt comfortable with everything we did. Which meant either he was the right person to explore with, or there was a latent freak in me just waiting to get out! Or both!

This was friendship with a lot of benefits, one of which was I’d just realized was the interaction with a third party. Rightly, I should have felt like a fish out of water. But that was so far from what I felt. Sometimes I was still gobsmacked that this was happening to me. Little ol’ bookish me. Me - the typical Friday spending home watching movies, non-club hopping, two drink maximum, ME. But I was quickly becoming aware of and embracing the depth and scope of my sensuality.

Victor was always ready to venture down new avenues with the two of us. He was thoroughly enjoying our trysts. In our instant messages he would tell me how he brought it up while he and Alyssa were having sex. Said it gets them both hot, and made her giggle. I guess she didn’t know she was as daring as she was turning out to be. She now joined me in a couple instant message conversations and we’d all relive our favorite or most memorable moments. Of course our kissing stood out the most. Not only because it was so far out there (for us anyway) and because it was unexpected, but because we had really enjoyed it.

This boded well for my openness to other activities. I wasn’t the one with the overactive imagination, however. That was Victor. Think you can guess what he was now trying to talk up? Maybe to some of you it’s logical that the next step was him wanting either (or both) of us to go down on each other. That was definitely a brow raiser. Uh uh, no way, no how, was not gonna happen. See, a few entries back (see contemplating - bi thoughts) I’d mentioned my conflict with bisexual activities. Now I’d tried touching and sucking a few places. Wasn’t too bad. And I’d liked the kissing. But all of that stuff was above the waist (apart from her legs). I hadn’t bothered with anything in her nether regions and neither had her fingers trailed in that direction on my body. Even with all that I’d done to and with Alyssa, I wasn’t questioning my sexuality. I loved men, everything about them and how they made me feel. Sure I could point out a beautiful woman and nice attributes, but nothing about a woman (especially that spot) got my blood pumping.

So this little suggestion wasn’t flying. It went in one ear and out of the other. Ok I’ll be honest. It did stick around for just a minute. I’ll admit that the thought of another female familiarizing herself with me down there was intriguing. I wondered if it would be different from being serviced by a man, and if so, how. “I think if we spent more time together, got even more comfortable, Alyssa would be willing to do it,” Vic told me. “Would you let her?”

Sexual Musing, More 3some Thoughts

I was 25 years old. I had recently watched my friend and his girlfriend have sex. I had gotten naked and engaged in oral sex in front of a woman, with her boyfriend. I had just had sex for the first time about a month before. I'd been touched and nibbled on by a woman and done the same to her. I was definitely breaking out of my conservative little shell. I was doing things I had never envisioned myself doing in a million years. And I was loving it!

Just thinking about it had warm feelings spreading throughout my body and knowing smiles gracing my lips. Even though we didn't see each other regularly, it was enough just to reflect on the myriad of activities we'd engaged in. Of course my internet conversations with Victor added to the thrill. We talked about what was most exciting to each of us. He liked when the two of us women touched and sucked. I liked the sex and the whole “taboo” aura that surrounded our get-togethers. No one who knew me would believe the things I was getting into. But what they didn’t know wouldn’t hurt them. Besides, you know I’m not one to kiss and tell…

Speaking of kissing - that was Victors next brilliant Idea. He wanted Alyssa and I to kiss. Yes Each Other. Uh-uh, no way, was not gonna happen. Did he miss the whole woman- on- woman conflict I’d had before? Maybe he thought that because we’d done one thing we’d be open to other ideas. Well let me tell you, kissing a woman was not at the top of my list of things to do (or the bottom or anywhere in between). The idea didn’t do anything for me. I’m not even sure Alyssa would want anything to do with it. But as we made plans for our next 3some the subject kept resurfacing.

“What about a 3way kiss,” he asked one day. By then he’d worn me down some, talking about how erotic it would be and how hot it’d get him. I told him I’d think about. I do love kissing and I felt more comfortable with Alyssa every time I saw her. The thought stayed there, stewing in the back of my mind. Would I do it? Could I get up the nerve? It’d be yet another experience to add to my growing list of sensual escapades...

Contemplating - Bisexual Thoughts

So I had sex with Victor for the first time. And loved it! Now we were talking about the next time we would all hang out together. And I was still kinda bugging out. Wow... I mean wow. What was I getting into, with these two? I didn't know for sure but I was gonna continue to find out.

I kept thinking about Alyssa sucking my nipple. Honestly I have never had any thoughts of doing anything sexual to a woman or having her do anything sexual to me. That really was a spur of the moment deal. And since I was in the moment, well I just went with it. And I'm glad I did. I think that's something all women should experience in their lifetime - having both nipples sucked simultaneously. It's really indescribable. I'd always thought if it was gonna happen it'd be two guys. Well it didn't turn out that way but I was cool with it anyhow.

Vic and my conversations got even steamier. Can you guess what he wanted now? For the slow bobs out there - he wanted me to return the favor for Alyssa. I wasn't too keen on it so I told him I'd think about. But in my mind I was like yeah right, ain't gonna happen. I shuddered just thinking about it. Didn't wanna tell him that though. But since I didn't, he kept coming up with all these crazy scenarios. Because I said maybe he then introduced the idea of licking cum off her breasts. That was definitely not gonna happen. For one I'm not a cum lover and two, well cum on a woman's breast? No thanks. I talked about how I liked the feeling and he talked about how much he liked watching Alyssa suck my breast. I liked that he was so turned on by it. So much so that it had me rethinking my decision.

You know the saying "I'll try anything once", well that's not really my philosophy. But I thought it applied here. I could try sucking her nipple this once and if I hated it I'd never do it again. Still it took a while to wrap my mind around the idea. I'm not a homophobe but I'm not too comfortable with it either. And kissing that body part of a woman was definitely in lesbian or at least bi territory, for me. I'm sure others agree with me on that. But he kept asking, and I loved the idea that something I could do, would turn him on so much.

So we made plans to meet up about a week later. To be honest the plan wasn't totally to my liking. After having sex I wanted more. But Alyssa wanted more 3play time. It was almost an ultimatum, the only play time would be with all characters present. Being that I'd just had sex for the 1st time, I wanted a chance to experience that a little more before jumping back in with the two of them. I didn't want my second time having sex to be with an onlooker, even though we'd been obviously been in intimate situations. I just wanted one on one time. But like I said she held the cards, and that's what she wanted. I agreed but I was just going to play and watch them have sex. That was my concession. In a few days I'd see (or should I say feel) how Alyssa had and she I. The anticipation was growing...

Voyeuristic Tendencies

Victor and I speak online almost everyday. We had a lot to talk about after my last visit. Victor told me about what he and Alyssa did later that night. She didn't believe he had been inside me. She found out for herself when she began licking his cock. After a couple of licks she looked at him, smiled and called him a bad boy. Then she proceeded to suck him off. I thought that was so hot. Her "tasting" me turned Victor on and me as well when he told me. In our following chats we also talked about things we could do the next time. Showers, massages, just exploring each others bodies.

These talks went on for days and then weeks because it was a while before I actually saw him again. More than once he mentioned Alyssa. "She's curious to meet you" Victor told me, "and I think she might wanna see us mess around". That said, I was kinda taken aback. She sounded like a nice person and I was warming to the idea of meeting her. I mean it was the least I could do, she was kind enough to share her boyfriend with me. But to have her watch he and I in intimate play? I couldn't see it happening. I just wouldn't feel comfortable being naked in a room with another female. Not only that but the thought of Alyssa watching me with her boyfriend just felt funny. So I put that thought on the back burner. Did I mention I loved my chats with Victor? They kept me hot when we couldn't see each other, not as great as being with him but not a bad substitute.

A couple of months had gone by, and Victor mentioned Alyssa wanting to meet me again. Before I could tell him that I would, he said "you could even watch us have sex if you want". I definitely didn't see that coming and I was dazed for a minute. Wow... I knew they had a healthy and somewhat unorthodox sex life. He had told me they'd gone to a sex party before. I didn't know the details so now I asked him. He told me it was nice. At first they just took things in and observed but they got comfortable enough to have sex in front of others. That is daring! Hot, and definitely bold! I had thought about watching people have sex in person. I mean who doesn't after seeing porn? And now the possibility, the opportunity was right there. Would I take him up on it? Should I?... How could I not!!! I was so intrigued by it that it became the basis of most of our chats until our next meeting. I let him know I was ready to meet Alyssa and we made tentative plans for me to one day watch them in action. I could hardly wait...